I mentioned our stay-in-bed chart in the Self-Serve Laminators post and someone asked me to please explain it. I'd love to! It's helped us and it's helped my sister and I hope it will help you too. Meet our first Good Night Sleep Chart, I made it on the fly minutes before bedtime:
1. She Owns It - she picked out the paper (golden of course) and the crayon (nothing other than purple).
2. The Title, "Good Night Sleep Chart" - it's about health and rest for a growing body and mind. She doesn't want to be grumpy the next day and have to take a nap, so she wants a Good Night's sleep. It says nothing about staying in bed because according to her that's not the emphasis, it's just health. Win, win!
3. The Chart, The Goal, The Habit - The goal of this chart is to create habits for sleeping. So the magic number for us was 20 squares/nights, long enough to create a habit and short enough to feel attainable for our (at the time) 4 year old. Every kiddo is different at every age so choose what's right for you, I think my sister did 7 nights at first for her 3 year old.
4. Where to post, In her room - Eye on the prize. She can see her chart on the wall from where she sleeps, I've even tried to hang it in her bed (baby brother keeps tearing it down).
5. Explain - She gets a sticker if she stays in bed all night. It's okay to get out to use the restroom as long as she goes right back to bed. Also, if there's an emergency or she's sick, throwing up or bleeding, it's of course okay to get out or yell for us.
6. The Reward - Something we needed anyway, something she loves and something associated with sleep: Pajamas!!! She got to pick them out, Minnie Mouse!
We've had huge success with this chart! We did have a few nights with no sticker but sometimes I gave her the chance to get 2 stickers the very next night to make up for the night with no sticker. Double the motivation! And 20 nights created a habit!
Sometimes we'll have a wave of getting out of bed because of a scary movie she's seen or maybe she's been sick and we'll do the chart again. Right now is one of those times, this time I made rows of 5 because I figured out it was better to count in sets of 5 for a 5 year old. :)
Other things that have helped with fear at bed time are a flashlight, nightlight, leaving the door open and a prayer. She'll repeat each line of this prayer after me and she's got it memorized now so hopefully she says it in the middle of the night if she ever scared.
Please don't let me have any bad dreams
and if I do
show me your love
wrap your arms around me
and show me they're not real.
Please let me only have sweet, sweet dreams
about ice cream after school, making a valentine
(whatever she's excited about and can focus on)
princesses, ballet, making gingerbread houses...
I love you,
After I tuck her in and before I leave the room I say, "Can't wait to give you a sticker in the morning!" It's one last reminder before I shut the door and before she thinks about popping out for who knows what! I do own that hilarious Go To Sleep book for adults because I can relate!